Self love sounds like a very basic concept. So tell me one thing, if it’s so simple, why are we so eager to neglect it?
Today I want to talk about it, and by it I mean the way we look after ourselves (or don’t).
We’ve all seen Eat, Pray, Love or at least understand the whole “finding ourselves/ our centres” and “loving our body, mind and soul” etc. But does it really take a non stop trip across the globe to do that? I don’t think so.
In a day and age like today we are non stop from the minute we enter the school yard, parents waving us off from the gate, one sock pulled up to our knee, one falling down around our ankle, hair in little plaits, eager minds ready to begin the learning process. But one thing I have noticed in (certainly) my own generation, is that we begin neglecting our minds and beings from a very young age. Mental health is pushed under the rug, our feelings and opinions, oppressed, and I think it is time to stop this.
It is important to teach our children how to love themselves, that their feelings aren’t invalid, it’s okay to feel sad sometimes. If boys want to play with barbie dolls then its okay, and they shouldn’t be picked on for it! As adults now, we can appreciate this, and learn from it. Even create a healthier environment with it!
Now I want to share some of my favourite things to do when I want to become central to my body, and show myself some love.
On cold days I like to wrap up in bed, with a good book and let my mind close itself off from the world for a few hours, or sit with my dogs and observe them, I find watching animals perplexing, they know much less than us, making it easy for them to live simple, pure lives, I find myself extremely happy and can consciously feel my mood lifting when I am around them. I also like to cozy up with my little sister and chat or watch our favourite film together, being in the company of a loved one, even if sat in silence, does wonders for your mind and soul.
Yoga is such a self loving activity, spending time on your own, getting to know your body, its limitations, allowing your mind to connect with your heart and get in some form of exercise even if it feels you aren’t exercising. It allows you to subconsciously gain control over your mind and breathing, just doing 20 minutes of yoga a day for a week will change you for the better, and you notice it too. It’s really easy to take up, there are hundreds of posts and videos online for beginners, gym classes, really anything you might need resource wise!
Finally, a traditional way to show yourself love is by a little pampering, go out and buy a face mask, some candles and have a nice bath. Candles with a light fragrance will always help you create a healthy, safe space. Never forget you can always take a book with you, a laptop with your favorite movie, a hot drink etc. Anything that will help you feel relaxed.
I have to say, I’m a people watcher, and you can really tell apart the people who take a lot of time to love and nourish themselves. They almost emit a physical glow, I find myself drawn to these people. Just imagine if we all took just a little bit of time to love ourselves, our children, friends etc. The possibilities are endless.
We would be a much more love filled place if we all did this. Not just my few examples that work for me, experiment and find what works for you, it could be anything, from buying yourself some flowers now and again to taking a walk on your own everyday.
Let me know some of your favourite ways to love yourselves!
(not my image)